Most of us have learned to find our identity in our relationships, work, accomplishments, possessions, personality and body. This is known as “object-referral,” which means that we identify with objects outside of ourselves. By their very nature, these objects are always changing, and as long as we tie our identity to them, we will never know our true unlimited self. We may feel happy when things go our way, but we’ll always feel an underlying current of instability or insecurity, because part of us knows that the source of our good feelings can disappear at any moment.
When we’re living from an awareness of our true self, we feel connected to all that exists; we experience infinite creativity; we feel free of limitation; we are fearless and willing to step into the unknown; we experience the spontaneous fulfillment of our desires; and we view ourselves and the world with compassion.
True self-esteem comes from discovering that who you really are is infinite spirit, unbounded and eternal. Once you’ve awakened to your essential nature, you will let go of the ego’s struggle to build an external sense of self-worth. Your true self doesn’t need to be improved, changed or even healed. It is whole, perfect and complete, exactly as it is. Shifting your sense of identity to your true self frees you to create a life of abundance, joy and fulfillment.