You’ve never seen a breakup coming
All of your breakups have taken you entirely by surprise. That isn’t normal—that means that you are unaware of harmful dynamics while they are happening, and not very good at reading whether or not your partner is happy.
You’ve never called someone your boyfriend
Whether or not you’ve ever dated someone for a long time, you have never called somebody your boyfriend. You treat labels like some sort of a disease that should be avoided at all costs.
You’ve never dated someone for more than a month
If you are in your thirties or older and have never dated somebody for even one straight month, something could be off. It’s perfectly normal not to have found the one yet, but not to have even found someone you could enjoy and get along with for four weeks says something…
You get tired of relationships around the same time
You have a pattern; all of your relationships end around the same time. Maybe it’s not a specific timeline (like three months or one year) but it’s around the same event or series of events.
Your relationships consume your mind
You think about relationships a lot, whether or not you’re in one. Often, the thing in our life that we know is “broken” or off is the thing we obsess over.
You won’t talk to your friends about your relationships
If you know, deep down, that divulging your habits and behaviors in relationships would raise a hundred red flags for your friends, then you should certainly seek professional help.