Some people believe there is no such thing as being too nice. Those people are too nice. If being nice to somebody else requires you to be mean and disrespectful to yourself, then if you think about it, you’re not being nice—you’re just the one getting the bad end of the deal. And, unfortunately, when you’re too nice, you attract people who are looking for people they can step all over. This ranges the entire spectrum of relationships from boyfriends to friends to colleagues. If you’re too nice, you may even become a punching bag for some of your friends or partners when they’re under stress because they know you won’t put them in their place. Have a little faith in yourself; if you feel the urge to be a little nasty to somebody, they probably deserve it. After all, you’re usually so nice.
You attract needy people
You attract people who always need to vent, always need advice, and whose lives are always in a state of disarray. This is because nobody else will tolerate the fact that these people do not change and do not learn from their mistakes—nobody but you. Instead of telling them the world is wrong and they are right, try telling them what you actually think they should do. They’ll probably go away because these kinds of people don’t want to hear the truth.
It drives you nuts if someone is mad at you
If you even presume somebody might be the tiniest bit mad at you, it keeps you up at night. In fact, you’ll harass that person until they talk things out with you. Guess what? Some people are dumb, selfish, have no perspective and will get mad at you no matter how nice you are. F*ck ‘em.
A lot of people owe you money
This is a classic sign of a person who is too nice. The fact that people haven’t paid you back your debt is a sign that people know you’re the type of person who won’t push the issue, so it’s mostly people who can’t pay you back money who ask you for money.
Your boyfriend hasn’t planned a date night in months
Because you keep saying, “It’s okay. I totally understand spending time playing video games is more important. And I totally get that you need to save the date night money for getting drinks with your friends—it’s your money.” NO! STOP! If you’re a priority, he’ll spend the money on date night and not his boys.
You are behind on your own errands
Your own life and personal tasks are in disarray because you let everyone else’s needs come first. You can’t remember the last time you just got a hair cut or bought enough groceries for three days.
You have unexplained stomach aches
That would be the giant knot that has formed in your stomach from every time you swallowed your tongue