Change that just happens to you can be scary—but it’s often out of your control completely so there’s little or no build up to it (and if there is, it’s often something you can do nothing about and you have no choice but to face your fear).
When it comes to change that you initiate—such as seeking out a new job, leaving your partner, or choosing to move to a new country—fear is a much bigger part of the equation. Since the choice is within your control, you can put an end to it and stop your fear (even if that means staying put and staying unhappy).
1. Accepting uncertainty. Uncertainty is part of life and the sooner you accept it, the easier it will be to cope with change—initiated or otherwise. Do your best to let go of what you cannot control (the outcome of initiating change) and focus instead on the fact you can control how you see the situation. Know that uncertainty is inevitable, but what’s unknown could turn out to be amazing.
2.Allowing excitement to trump fear. The reason you’re choosing change is because you know it is what you need. There’s something better out there for you than what you have now. So get excited about that! Don’t let fear be the reigning emotion. Focus on the excitement of possibilities, of a better life, of being happier. The future is exciting and that excitement can override your fear if you allow it to.