Do you think people who engage in conflict do so because they like it? Okay, well, we all know those combative individuals who do seek it out. But most people engage in conflict because they have to in order to keep their lives moving forward. Any sort of progression, change, and advancement in life stems from a little conflict. Think about it; you can’t get a raise or promotion without debating with your boss about why you deserve it. You can’t leave a bad relationship unless you’re willing to have that breakup conversation. You can’t rid your life of toxic people unless you’re able to have that tough talk where you tell them why they need to go. On the other side of conflict there is usually more peace and happiness than you had before so go through it. Here are signs you avoid conflict at all costs.
You always make jokes
If you sense an argument coming up, you’re always ready with a joke to deflect the situation. In fact, you’ve become quite witty throughout your years of avoiding conflict. The harder you make the person laugh, the less steam they have to carry on the argument.
You invite other people into the room
You like to keep lots of people around your home—friends, family, assistants—because you know your partner won’t feel comfortable bringing up arguments in front of them.
You say, “Do we have to fight when we could be having a good time?”
This is very manipulative; it’s insinuating that by bringing up a tough subject, your partner is ruining a good time. In actuality, they’re trying to fix an issue so that overall you two can have a better time every day.
You have friends you don’t like
Why? Because you haven’t been able to tell them that you don’t like them. You haven’t been able to tell them they aren’t invited to the dinner party.
You look at the bright side, even when there isn’t one
You can find the bright side of literally any situation because you’d rather do that then admit things aren’t going well and something must be said about it. For example, “I don’t love my partner—that’s true—but hey, at least I don’t hate them. That much.”